The theme of body language has become widely popular today. That’s right, there is a body language that sending certain signals helps us, often instinctively, catch the real meaning of intention the person we are talking to. Body language can be described as open or closed. Open body language encourages interaction and closed body language sends the signal to stay away. The one who can read body language has chance to be very smart, because psychologists established that facial expression can lead one astray, but body language can’t be:-)
Body language that is open and receptive
• Open body language welcomes interaction. It involves facing others squarely, chest to chest and eye to eye. Studies show that much more communication takes place between people who face each other squarely than by those who stand side by side.
• People show openness with a cluster of body movements. They may take actions such as loosen clothing, removing a jacket and unbuttoning a collar. Look for the transition when the body opens and the triggers that may have caused this change.
• In open body language the face becomes more animated and friendly. Eye contact is relaxed and prolonged.
• The arms are relaxed, and they may be animated and moving.
Body language that is closed
• People display closed body language when they feel threatened or uncomfortable. They withdraw or hide their bodies by using various stances and physical shields for protection.
• People who are angry, nervous or defensive often draw inward by crossing their arms, legs or ankles, or lowering their heads. They lower their chin, covering their neck. The groin is protected with knees together, crossed legs or covered by the hands. The arms may be held across the chest or face.
• They may avoid making eye contact, or make overly aggressive eye contact, such as staring someone down.
• When people are defensive or feel challenged they may thrust out their arms, or point or use repelling motions such as pushing to enforce physical or psychological distance.
As to regards relationship, dating and love I’d like to make some good quotation from the guy’s side. So, a few signs she’s interested or not so.
“The “let’s laugh” signal
Distinctly not-dumb guy David Wygant, author of Always Talk To Strangers, is an excellent signal-reader. “If she makes you feel like a stand-up comedian, even though you’re not that funny, she wants to take it to the next level,” says Wygant. Similarly, Rosemarie of White Plains, New York, shares, “If I’m interested in a guy, I kind of tease him—I try to get a funny, bantering chat going. It shows that I’m interested in playing a bit of a cat-and-mouse game, you know? I’ll say something like, ‘I think you’re just making that up,’ or ‘Honestly now, has that line worked?’ but I say it with a big smile and eye contact so he knows I’m just joking.”
The tell-tale time sign
If you are friends with a woman and sometimes wonder if there might be more there, take heed of when she wants to hang out with you. If she wants to meet you for a quick workday lunch, chances are she doesn’t fancy you in the way you might hope. But if she asks you to meet her for a drink in the evening or to see a movie with her on a Saturday at 8 P.M., she may be casting you in more of a boyfriend role. Says Shelly of San Diego: “I work with a lot of guys and admit to getting crushes on coworkers from time to time. I’ll chat them up about new movies I want to see, and if one I’m interested in asks me out, I do what I can to make it at night on a weekend. That makes it so easy to grab a drink or food afterward and get to know each other on a more personal level.”
The body language clues OK, so the odds of a woman reaching out to hold your hand while you’re flirting with her are slim to none. So how does she use her body to show you she’s interested? Jess from New York believes a woman’s gestures will send you the message. “Her body language will give her away—if a woman leans in toward a guy while he’s talking, mimics his body language, and maybe sneaks in a subtle touch here or there, these are pretty good signs that she’s into him. Obviously, he should get her phone number and actually call.”
And how does a guy know if a woman isn’t interested? “If she is looking around the room while he’s talking to her and crossing her arms across her chest,” says Jess, “she’s probably not that interested. Also, if she tells the guy that he would be perfect for her sister or she suddenly brings up the fact that she’s been talking to her ex-boyfriend, there’s probably not a spark there.” The guy should just move on to a woman who is worth his time or possibly take the uninterested woman up on her sister offer.
The look of “I like you”
A guy should also know what kind of eye contact is waving him in. Direct eye contact that lasts more than a couple of seconds is a sign of interest, say the experts. And if a woman looks from your eyes to your mouth, well, things are in very, very good shape. “I don’t know if it’s conscious or not, but when I like a guy, I find my gaze wanders from his eyes to his mouth,” says Moira of St. Louis. “It’s definitely a seduction move; it lets him know that I’m thinking about what it would be like to kiss him.” Gentleman, if you’re getting that signal, this is another time you want to go ahead and get that phone number.
Taking the next step
Once we men realize she “likes us, likes us,” our minds are oftentimes so blown that we have no idea how to proceed. Fortunately, Wygant does: “Once she gives you the hints, you need to close the deal. Ask her to talk to you away from her friends or call her up on the phone and say, ‘You know what? I want to take you out for a nice dinner—just the two of us.’”What if the object of your affection is a woman you’ve known as a pal for a while? Over dinner, you have the talk, advises Wygant. “You say, ‘I’d really like to become more than friends. I’d like to start dating you. What do you think of that?’ At this point, she’s given you every single sign that this is the conversation she’s been dreaming about, and of course the answer is going to be yes.”
